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Writer's pictureSally Walford

Let them know, before you go. The emotional side to decluttering.



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Let them know before you go

I have recently been reminded of the more emotional side to decluttering and organising. Not that this is something you forget about but chatting to my mum and dad’s close friends this weekend has only emphasised the importance of what we do and how we play a key role in helping people to let go.


Life as we know often throws us a curve ball and although we know that death and taxes are on the cards the aftermath of not dealing with your stuff , your possessions and not making that list or not saying those words can cause a great deal of stress for those left behind dealing with everything.


If this is perhaps a bit too close to the bone or something you are not ready for,  believe me when I say that,  actually you have to hear this.

It’s not only important for you to take note of , it’s extremely helpful for other members of your family and friends.


Pam, one of my mums closest friends lost Dan two years ago this year and she has only just looked into that spare room and felt she was able to tackle some rather tricky boxes .

With some items it was easy, Dan had been part of a charity organisation so the bingo set and some uniform were to be returned to them and the old paperwork although, took some time was all to be shredded but it was the other items that Pam was struggling with .


Had this mug been his favourite? Why was it separate to the others from the kitchen ? 

Now although a mug maybe not be a particularly emotional object to most people, 

but to Pam it was causing distress and her decision making was very clouded.

Not just that it was the guilt and the non decision meant she couldn’t decide so it would have to reside!

Holding on to something for this … no idea why? 

Just incase?

Incase of what? 


So before you might be too late and I included myself in the task: 


Write down the important things or better still make a list and show your friends and family the objects that do make you happy, that you do want them to remember you by so you can stop the process of holding onto objects for generations for no other reason than the mug that you forgot to take downstairs!


Not everyone needs the assistance of a professional organiser in these circumstances but if you do need help letting go or help even making that list.. we love a good list 

Then get in touch today 

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